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Frequently Asked Questions

What is a humanist wedding?

In one word: stunning. In a few more, it's a non-religious, fully inclusive wedding ceremony that lets the two of you do things entirely your own way, whatever that looks like. There's no set script and no box you have to tick. It's your love story, your words, your people, shaped around who you actually are. And as an accredited Humanists UK celebrant I can legally marry you right here in Northern Ireland, so my trusty folder and I will happily go wherever in our wee country love takes us.

Is a humanist wedding legally binding in Northern Ireland?

Yes. Humanist marriages conducted by an accredited Humanists UK celebrant in Northern Ireland are fully legal and recognised, here and elsewhere. As your celebrant I am also your legal officiant, which means the ceremony I write and deliver is your actual, legal marriage. There's no need for a separate trip to the registry office to make it official, because the ceremony itself does exactly that.

Stefanie Onipko humanist wedding celebrant at Tullyveery House Northern Ireland
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Where can we get married? Can it be outdoors, or even at home?

Just about anywhere you like. One of the loveliest things about a humanist wedding is the sheer freedom of it: a woodland, a walled garden, a grand estate, a windswept beach, or your own back garden with the kettle on. I can legally marry you any place, any day, at any time. If you'd like a little inspiration, have a wee browse of some of my favourite Northern Ireland wedding venues.

Do you offer naming ceremonies and vow renewals as well?

Stefanie Onipko humanist wedding celebrant at The Wool Tower Northern Ireland
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Can you tell me more about the process?

Of course. It starts with a no-obligation online meeting, just a friendly chat to see if we're a good fit. If you decide I'm your person, we'll meet properly over coffee (and, ideally, a substantial slab of cake). From there I get to know you and gather all the unique, hilarious and gloriously everyday details that go into crafting your one-of-a-kind ceremony.

We're a bit clueless about what to include. Can you help?

Oh, one hundred percent. I can do as much or as little as you need. Some couples arrive knowing exactly what they want; others just know the feeling they're after, and I help choose the poems, readings, music and symbolic moments to create it. I'll talk you through the lovely optional extras too, like hand-fasting, sand blending, ring warming and unity candles.

Do you travel for weddings, vow renewals and namings?

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We're travelling from further afield, or from abroad. Can you still marry us?

I'd love to, and plenty of couples make the trip for it. There are two lovely ways this tends to work. If you'd like your legal marriage to happen here, I can legally marry you anywhere in Northern Ireland, though depending on where you're coming from you may need a little extra paperwork first, and I'll guide you through it. Or, if you've already taken care of the legal side back home, which lots of couples travelling from abroad choose to do, we can create a purely symbolic ceremony instead, full of meaning and beautiful Celtic touches like hand-fasting, with none of the admin. One thing to note: my legal authority sits with Northern Ireland, so any legally binding ceremony needs to take place here. Whichever route suits you, get in touch and we'll find the right fit.

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Can you help us find the perfect spot for our ceremony?

I can happily point you in the right direction. Northern Ireland is spoiled for jaw-dropping places to say your vows, and the Ards Peninsula on my own doorstep is a particular treasure, from clifftops and quiet coves to woodland and old harbour towns. Tell me the kind of backdrop you're dreaming of and I'll share a few favourites to get you started.

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How far in advance should we book?

The honest answer is as soon as you know you'd like me. Lovely dates, especially in summer and early autumn, get snapped up well over a year ahead. That said, never assume it's too late. If your date is close, get in touch anyway, because you never know, and I'd always rather hear from you than have you not ask.

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What's the best way to get in touch?

Connecting is my favourite part of this whole job, so please do reach out. You can fill in my contact form, drop me an email, or send me a wee DM on socials, whatever suits you best. I genuinely can't wait to hear from you.

Stefanie Onipko humanist celebrant at The Slieve Donard Hotel Northern Ireland
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Got more questions? Please get in touch!