Frequently Asked Questions

What is a humanist wedding?

A humanist wedding ceremony is a non-religious and fully inclusive ceremony which has the couple at its heart. It can ditch the trappings associated with traditional weddings and offers the freedom to do things your way. It is a joyful, relaxed and warm celebration of two people in love who have shaped their ceremony to suit them.

Do I need to be a humanist to have a humanist wedding ceremony?

No, not at all! Many people don’t consider themselves religious and may actually share many of humanism’s philosophies without actually realising it. In essence, humanists believe in the good within human beings and in looking to science, reason and ethics to try to live a life of meaning.

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Are humanist ceremonies legal?

Yes! As of 2018, humanist weddings became legally binding in Northern Ireland, thanks to the incredible work of Humanists UK. Further to that, in January 2020 same-sex weddings also became legal in Northern Ireland.

Can you tell me more about the process?

Sure! The process begins with a no-obligation online meeting. If you decide I’m a good fit for you, we will then have a face-to-face meeting over coffee (and hopefully a massive slab of cake). Here I’ll get to know you better and begin collecting and collating all the unique/hilarious/gloriously everyday pieces of information about you both to help me tell your story.

We are a bit clueless about what to include in our ceremony. Can you help?

Oh, 100%. I can help as much (or as little) as you want. You may have a really clear idea of what you want on the day and require minimal input. On the other hand, you may know what atmosphere you want to create and feelings you hope to evoke- I can guide you in choosing poems, readings and songs to make that happen.

We aren’t based in Northern Ireland but would love to marry there. Can we?

Absolutely, humanist marriages conducted in Northern Ireland are legally recognised everywhere. With its beautiful natural landscape as well as many superb venues around the country, it is clear why so many couples are choosing to marry in our wee country. If you do live far from the Emerald Isle, fear not- there are many ways we can chat and collaborate to create the perfect day for you.

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Alright, let’s talk business: what are the costs?​

A really important question when it comes to a wedding! My writing & ceremony fee is £600. If a wedding venue is more than 60 miles from my home then mileage will also be charged for the ceremony and for the rehearsal if you choose to have one. All fees are communicated and agreed before your booking is finalised, so there won’t be any surprises.

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